When it comes to raising self-esteem, it’s easy to tell ourselves that we’re failures and that we’re bad people. However, this sort of self-talk doesn’t do anything but take your self esteem lower.
Take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. On one side list 10 strengths and on the other list 10 weaknesses. It might be difficult to list strengths when you have low self esteem, but write down 10 no matter how small they are.
This list will help you realize not only your strengths, but the things you can do to diminish your weaknesses. Once they’re down on paper, you can take steps to work on them.
Quiet Down Negative Self-Talk
There’s a voice inside everyone’s head now and again and that tells you everything that’s wrong with you (real and imagined) and simply refuses to shut up. When it pops up, think of a word or phrase that you can use to make it stop.
“Stop” is a good go-to. Any word will do so long as it stops the train of thought. Once you do this, use the opportunity to think more constructively. Think about the problem, and try to find a solution.
Take a Moment to Appreciate Yourself
Every day, for just a minute or two, get comfortable and take a deep breath. As yourself what are 3 things you can appreciate about yourself or what are three things that I did that were good? They don’t have to be grand. Even if you just lent someone an ear you can list it.
We all want to be perfect, but the truth is that the day will never come when you are perfectly perfect. Remember that sometimes, especially when it comes to mental health, good enough is good enough.
Forms of artistic expression such as writing, painting, and dancing are great for relieving stress and building confidence since you don’t have to show anybody.
This is also related to the above. Art doesn’t require perfection, so it’s great to kick the perfectionism habit.
Self esteem comes from the thoughts we have about ourselves. It’s important to think positive and replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
Be Kind to Others
It might be a bit cliché, but being kind to others and being generous with your time will improve your self image. You’ll start to feel better about yourself and have more confidence that you are, in fact, a good person.
Set and Work Toward Small Goals
Sometimes we’re hard on ourselves because we never accomplish our goals or keep the promises we make to ourselves. To counteract this, set small simple goals that you can easily accomplish.
Once you have confidence that you can accomplish these goals, you can start setting bigger ones.
Be Kind to Yourself
The things we tell ourselves in our harshest moments can wear us down. Whenever you start admonishing yourself for being useless or stupid ask yourself whether you would say these things to your best friend.
Then remember that you are your best friend.
Count Your Blessings
When you feel down and out it can help to count your blessings and remember all the friends and family who care about you. Be thankful for what you have in life. This can be humbling and rewarding all at the same time.
Become More Active
Exercise releases endorphins which make you feel better about yourself. Plus, it’s healthy for you. You may find yourself with more energy and more confidence.
Clean Your Area
If you work often at a desk or your house is a mess, then doing a bit of cleaning will help you feel better. It’s hard to think in a messy area, and no one likes working around used cups and empty fast food containers.
Spend Time with People You Love
Spending time with other people can be extremely comforting, and these people like you for who you are. At the same time, try to meet and befriend new people.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Other
We’ve all compared ourselves to other more successful people, but this is unhealthy. Remember that everyone has their own problems and insecurities to bear, and that you’re not in competition with anyone.
Get Enough Sleep
Not getting enough sleep can leave you feeling depressed and miserable. Make sure you get a full eight hours of sleep. It can do wonders for your mood and self esteem.